abandonment issues…

one of the excuses given to me by one of my sisters as to why she wasn’t communicating with me is how concerned she is about t’s abondonment issues.
well, if she had been communicating with me (or anyone else in our family) she would know that t has not been abandoned by anyone but her and my other sister. just because t has gone to live with my parents it didn’t cut off our relationship or communication with her. my husband talks with her once a week or more (i speak to her less because of her issues with mother figures). we’re in constant communication with my parents.
i guess i’m angry at being accused of abandoning someone by the person who is doing the actual abandoning.
i also realize i may be trying to have a relationship with people (my sisters) who don’t want a relationship. they both said they felt i didn’t want them involved in my life – well, the truth is sister #1 has disengaged herself from everyone in the family but sister #2. unfortunately, sister #2 is now using lingo sister #1 uses.
looking back on our family history – even before dealing with t i realize my sisters don’t really care about our family. when h was in the hospital hooked up to an oxygen machine neither sister called to see how he was doing. i should have got it then.
this isn’t for sure but i think if i don’t get an apology or some sort of positive message from my sisters i’m going to move on. i don’t have enough energy to keep working on my relationship with them, t and have a healthy, happy family here at home. they are no longer a priority.
i have to get to a point where that’s ok. i don’t need them to like me. i don’t need their validation in my life. there’s a bond between family members that makes us long for each other – i think. it’s about time to break that bond and move on for me. i’ll grieve for the relationship between our children but that’s it.